But that’s not the case, is it? Maybe you find yourself filled with doubt. About your abilities. About your productivity. About your choices. About your reactions to people or events. And you wonder if what all those well-meaning people say is true. Maybe I am too sensitive. Maybe I take things too seriously. Maybe I should lighten up. It was just a joke, after all!
Then again, maybe those messages aren’t coming from other people at all. Maybe they are coming from within. Are you telling yourself you’re not good enough? Are you telling yourself things like “I’m such a slacker,” “Why can’t I just get this stuff done,” “Ugh, I spend too much time on Facebook!”
I’m not saying that we should just accept the way we do things without question. But do we need to be so hard on ourselves?
I’ll be the first one to tell you that if you don’t like something about your life, you should change it.
But there is a fine line between striving for improvement and beating ourselves up about not being good enough. There has to be a certain amount of acceptance in the situation in order to most effectively change it. Sort of like saying to ourselves “ok, so I have been spending 3 hours a day mindlessly browsing Facebook, and it’s affecting my ability to get a healthy meal on the table, so how can I improve the situation without giving up all of my mindless browsing time that I enjoy?”
This is, as the title suggests, a journey. Getting to the point that you are able to accept yourself, while at the same time, striving to become better, can be quite an ebb and flow process. It takes learning, reflecting, and practicing. It takes reading and learning from other people. It takes support and an unwavering dedication to being the best version of yourself that you can be. And when it comes down to it, you are going to have days that you find yourself feeling defeated and want to just crawl under the covers and hide.
And that’s okay!
The road to self-acceptance is not paved. You must pave your own path. Nobody else can do it for you. You have to take your tools that you learn along the way, and use them to pave this path. It could be a short road, or it could take the rest of your life. But regardless of how long it takes you, each step you take on the path will make you happier, more fulfilled, and will allow you to fully enjoy the moments of your life, regardless of what anyone else says to you. Once you are able to stop walking all over yourself, it becomes easier to enforce the boundaries that disallow others from walking on you, as well. Difficult? Yes. Worth it? Absolutely.
Next Steps: Are you ready to pave your path to complete self-acceptance and happiness? Consider getting support. If you’re not already a member, please join our private Highly Sensitive Parent Facebook group. There, you’ll find an amazing group of empathetic parents who understand how hard it can be to live day-to-day with an extra sensitive nervous system. If you are looking for more personalized, one-on-one support, I’m now offering a beginner’s package for those considering working with me, but either are not in a position to invest in or are not sure they want to commit to a longer-term coaching program. During the jump start program, we will work together to identify your deep down life vision, motivation, challenges, and ways to overcome them. You will get the support you so deeply need to help you learn to accept yourself, set realistic goals for improvement, and live a rich, fulfilling life that feels good to you.